“Is the route to Happiness Sam to get a man?” asked my friend Mike, in our group WhatsApp chat. “Do you think? In your experience?”
Hmmm. Good question.
When I recovered from the audacity, absurdity and arrogance of the question, I could see that it was indeed a good question. The short answer is no, of course the route to Happiness is not to get a man! In reality it’s not as simple as that. Many women, although they may not admit it, do they think they will be happy when they’ve found a man. (Boy are they in for a shock!) For many years I was one of those women!
Self-Care – Happiness Tips for Surviving Social Isolation
In the second post of the Happiness Tips for Social Isolation series we look at self-care.
I am very impressed with the we not me mentality that has emerged as a result of the current situation. However, I do believe that our own self-care must come first. When we fly, parents are advised to apply their own oxygen masks before applying their children’s mask. This is because parents can’t help their children if they have passed out. In the same way, we are only able to help others when we are on top form ourselves. We cannot fill another’s cup if our own cup is empty.
Here are my tips for self-care during social isolation:
It is the 2nd week of lockdown during the Coronavirus crisis in the UK. I’m enjoying some much-needed quiet time.
When they started talking at work about us taking our laptops home every night, I didn’t take it too seriously. Although after a few days I did start to stow my laptop away in my pink rucksack and take it home with me every evening. The thought of lockdown secretly excited me. I also found the idea of working from home appealing. I thought it would give me lots of extra time to relax and work on Happiness Club.
Welcome to the self-care challenge. Your mission – should you choose to accept it – is to do something for yourself every day for the next five days. Take part in our challenge and win a self-care package. We’re giving away a prize every month.
I’ve had a cold for over two weeks, and I’d like to share the lessons I’ve learned from being ill. To give you some background, my healthy eating plan has slipped over the past few months. I repeated my pattern of starting the year strong, then slowly eating more and more chocolate and cakes and ended up ill with Candida. I had to go on a complete detox of all sugars including alcohol, fruit and sugar substitutes. I was feeling pretty rough due to Candida and subsequent die off symptoms. I started to feel better and then I came down with a flipping cold! On top of all that I’ve had a stressful few weeks at work. Continue reading “Lessons I’ve learned from being ill”
Yesterday I left work early as I felt tired and tearful. I went to bed at 9 pm, determined to wake up feeling better and raring to go. Inspired by my ex-flatmate Lottie, I’ve been challenging myself to do Hal Elrod’s Miracle Morning (more about that in a later post) over the last couple of days. I set my alarm for 6.30 am, determined to have a successful day three.
It’s easy to forget the importance of forgiveness. We forgive others, not to benefit them, but to benefit ourselves. Holding onto anger, bitterness and blame eats away at us and stops us from achieving peace of mind. It can be tricky to forgive, especially when we’ve been deeply hurt.
Where shall I start? Well, since coming off my medication it has been a rocky ride. I’ve had a few knock backs and sometimes it feels as if everything is going wrong at the same time. I feel as though I keep getting knocked down, get back up, dust myself down, only to get knocked down again. I still keep getting up though.
As you may know I’ve been weaning off my anti-depressants since the latter part of 2017. I’ve been on them for 26 years – since I was 17! I’ve tried to come off them many times before and each time I had a relapse. I had a relapse this time as I mentioned in my previous post Coming off the meds (again!). The difference is I was able to work through my feelings using my toolbox of Happiness techniques. I continued to cut down the meds and I took my final dose a couple of weeks ago. I must admit I’m feeling pretty chuffed and proud of myself. Continue reading “Life after anti-depressants”