How to get what you want – affirmations

Affirmations

Affirmations are a great way to get what you want. They’re also a great way to overcome negativity. I used to use them successfully all the time but for some reason I stopped using them as much.

I first discovered affirmations when I read Louise Hay’s book You Can Heal Your Life around 22 years ago. I wanted a new job and more money, so I started saying something like “I have a brilliant new job with a great salary and it comes to me quickly, easily and effortlessly”. Within a week I had a new job and I’d doubled my salary.

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Changing My Story

Changing my story

It’s been a few weeks since I posted. I’ve had a challenging time. I must admit I’ve been feeling quite low since coming off my anti-depressants. My businesses are not going as well as I would like. My finances are shocking. I’ve had to take a job in a call centre on minimum wage. I have felt like a failure. I have felt as though the hope has run out. As if the light at the end of the tunnel has been extinguished.

I keep catching myself telling this story to myself and others and to a certain extent I know I’m wallowing in self-pity. After one particular evening where I’d been telling my ‘woe is me’ story to anyone who would listen, I realised that I need to change my story or as Abraham Hicks would say ‘Get off the subject’. I wrote about this back in 2013 in my post How to Get What You Want – Change the Subject and five years later in 2018, it seems I am still learning the same lesson.

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How to Get What You Want – 30 day challenge

Last year a friend of mine gave me a recording of Earl Nightingale’s “The Strangest Secret”. I listened to it again this morning and it’s inspired me to take Earl’s 30 day challenge. Maybe you’d like to join me. Start by listening to the recording on YouTube by clicking here. Once you’ve listened to it, follow the steps below to get what you want.

1. Write one goal on a piece of card and look at it throughout the day. On one side write your goal and on the other side write “Ask and it is given, seek and you will find, knock and it shall be opened.”

2. Save 10% of everything you receive.

3. Tithe 10% of everything you receive.

4. Only think positive thoughts. Avoid complaining and putting yourself down.

5. Give whatever you’re doing 100% and more.

6. Give to others. Be of service.

7. If you find yourself in a negative mindset, start the 30 days again.

8. Keep your vibration high by dancing, singing, meditating and doing things you love and make you feel good.

9. Let go of attachment to the outcome. Let go of the need to know how it will happen. Trust in a power greater than yourself.

10. Be grateful for all the wonderful things you already have.

11. Join our Facebook group “How to Get What You Want – 30 day challenge” to share experiences and give and receive support.

The Power of Language

Every time we say or think something we are sending out vibrations to the universe and we’re also sending messages to our unconscious mind, so it’s really important to watch what we think and say. If you want to remember to do something, you can either say “I mustn’t forget to do X,” or “I must remember to do X”. In the first example, we’re focusing on what we don’t want and our unconscious mind and the universe connect to the word ‘forget’. In the second instance, our unconscious mind and the universe connect to the word remember. Another example is saying either “I hope it doesn’t rain today” or “I hope we have nice weather today.”

 

I’ve noticed that people often say “no worries” or “no problem”. If someone says “thank you” or “sorry” and we say “no worries” or “no problem” both our unconscious mind and the unconscious mind of the other person is focused on the words “worries” and “problem.” As an alternative try saying “my pleasure”,  “you’re welcome” or “it’s OK” instead.

Some believe that everything in life comes down to a choice between love and fear. Bearing that in mind, I would recommend avoiding using the phrase “I’m afraid,” i.e. “I’m afraid there are no appointments left on Thursday.” Another word I try to avoid is “awfully,” i.e. “it’s an awfully long way to go.”

Exercise

  • Become aware of your words and thoughts and how you can change them into focusing on what you want and / or something more positive.
  • Write a list of negative words or phrases that you use and write another list of alternative words or phrases.