First in a series of posts to help increase confidence and self-esteem
You know how sometimes we all experience fear and imposter syndrome? Well, in this series of posts I will share some tools for overcoming that and increasing confidence and self-esteem. Download your free guide to Unlimited Self-Esteem.
Journaling is great for problem solving and decision making. I find it particularly helpful if I’m stressed about something or if I’ve got lots of thoughts chasing around my head.
There’s something quite cathartic about journaling. I think of it as a tool similar to Dumbledore’s pensieve. Putting my thoughts down on paper, gets them out of my head. It creates room in my head and gives it a chance to breathe. It’s almost a kind of meditation. Julia Cameron, author of the Artist’s Way and creator of Morning Pages, suggests journaling or Morning Pages first thing in the morning before meditating. This practice helps to clear our heads.
I want to share my experience of Tapping for Self-Esteem. From what I’ve seen low self-esteem is one of the biggest things holding us back. It manifests as fear, worry, anxiety, depression, procrastination, a need for approval, judgement, undue concern about what others think, imposter syndrome and much more. This issue has come up for me time and time again over the last year and I’m determined to beat this once and for all.
Thought Field Therapy (TFT), better known as Tapping, is one of the biggest things that has helped me overcome difficulties, remove blocks, and achieve Happiness. It was also one of the main things that helped me come off my anti-depressants after being on them for over 26 years!
Listen to my interview about my part in the Egyptian Revolution on the Positivity Podcast with Andrew Culture.
I throughly enjoyed recording it and listening to it. I loved that I found it interesting even though it was about me and it made me laugh!
“Sometimes a podcast guest doesn’t quite turn out to be what I expect them to be.
When this happens it is often a delight, but not always.
I booked Sam Brook for an interview to talk about her ‘Happiness Club’ project. But before we got into that discussion I wanted to find about a little bit more about the background of my guest. This is where things took a quite shocking and unexpected turn.
As I mentioned in my previous post, feeling the pain is a great way to deal with difficult emotions, but what can you do when feeling the pain doesn’t work?
Learning to be Happy is an ongoing lesson and in particular I have realised that it’s okay not to be okay. I still experience periods of depression; usually they pass very quickly but occasionally they linger.
Sometimes the emotions are so painful I have even considered suicide. I don’t want to die, I just want the pain to stop.
I have experienced feelings of depression on and off over the last few months. It’s no wonder that my emotions are still coming into balance. I was on anti-depressants for 26 years!
A few weeks ago, I started to feel better after having a healing and seeing my homeopath. I had an aha moment when I realised I had fallen into the trap of not just feeling the pain, but dwelling on it. I had become stuck in a pattern of talking and thinking about being depressed. I had to focus on what I want instead of focusing on what I don’t want, I had to change my story.
As well as my regular Happiness practices such as my Buddhist chanting, Tapping and meditation, there are three particular techniques I find helpful to avoid getting sucked into a vortex of negativity and I share them in this post. Remember though, it’s important to allow ourselves to feel the pain before we use other Happiness techniques. I find it can be a tricky balancing act.
“Is the route to Happiness Sam to get a man?” asked my friend Mike, in our group WhatsApp chat. “Do you think? In your experience?”
Hmmm. Good question.
When I recovered from the audacity, absurdity and arrogance of the question, I could see that it was indeed a good question. The short answer is no, of course the route to Happiness is not to get a man! In reality it’s not as simple as that. Many women, although they may not admit it, do they think they will be happy when they’ve found a man. (Boy are they in for a shock!) For many years I was one of those women!
I believe feeling the pain is the first and most important step on the journey to achieving Happiness. If we don’t allow ourselves to feel the pain, any other Happiness practices are just papering over the cracks.
Relationships – Happiness Tips for Surviving Social Isolation
As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, my biggest fear at this time is not whether I will survive the Coronavirus but whether my relationship will survive social isolation!
We’re a few weeks into social isolation now. I’ve lost count of what week we’re in, but I think it’s week five or six. I’m pleasantly surprised and relieved that apart from the meltdown mentioned in my Dark Night of the Soul post, Mr Sexy Pants (MSP) and I have been getting on very well.
In this post I share my tips for helping your relationship survive social isolation. I have also included some tips for singletons.
We not Me – Happiness Tips for Surviving Social Isolation
In this next post of the Happiness Tips for Social Isolation series we look at the “We not Me” culture that is currently spreading across the planet.
It has been said that doing things for others is one way to achieve fulfillment. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs lists love and belonging including a sense of connection as the third need and self-actualisation – being the best we can be – as the top need. Similarly, leading life coach Tony Robbins says, “Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution experience life’s deepest joy: true fulfillment”.
It is truly inspiring to see the abundance of selfless initiatives that have sprung up during this time of crisis. In this post we offer some suggestions to cultivate the ‘we not me’ mentality in your life.