When feeling the pain doesn’t work

When feeling the pain doesn’t work

As I mentioned in my previous post, feeling the pain is a great way to deal with difficult emotions, but what can you do when feeling the pain doesn’t work?

Learning to be Happy is an ongoing lesson and in particular I have realised that it’s okay not to be okay. I still experience periods of depression; usually they pass very quickly but occasionally they linger.

Sometimes the emotions are so painful I have even considered suicide. I don’t want to die, I just want the pain to stop.

I have experienced feelings of depression on and off over the last few months. It’s no wonder that my emotions are still coming into balance. I was on anti-depressants for 26 years!

A few weeks ago, I started to feel better after having a healing and seeing my homeopath. I had an aha moment when I realised I had fallen into the trap of not just feeling the pain, but dwelling on it. I had become stuck in a pattern of talking and thinking about being depressed.  I had to focus on what I want instead of focusing on what I don’t want, I had to change my story.

As well as my regular Happiness practices such as my Buddhist chanting, Tapping and meditation, there are three particular techniques I find helpful to avoid getting sucked into a vortex of negativity and I share them in this post. Remember though, it’s important to allow ourselves to feel the pain before we use other Happiness techniques. I find it can be a tricky balancing act.

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Focus on the Good – Happiness Tips for Surviving Social Isolation

Focus on the good during social isolation

Image by Jill Wellington from Pixabay

In this series of blog posts, I will share my Happiness tips for surviving social isolation.

So far, I have managed to remain in high spirits on the whole. I have to admit I am a bit scared of catching Coronavirus. My biggest fear though is social isolation. You may be surprised to know that I am an introvert at heart. I love spending time quiet time alone at home with the cats or with my boyfriend, Andy, affectionately known as Mr Sexy Pants (MSP). The thought of being stuck at home for an indefinite period causes me to feel quite uncomfortable though. I’m also worried that MSP or I might die – not because of the Coronavirus – but because we’ve killed each other. If we do live to tell the tale, will we still love each other? Will our relationship last the distance?

In these posts, I will be sharing the steps that I will be taking for me – and my relationship – to survive.

In this first blog post we take a closer look at what we focus on.

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Lessons I’ve learned from being ill

AKA my recent Happiness wake-up calls

Lessons I’ve learned from being ill
Image by silviarita from Pixabay

I’ve had a cold for over two weeks, and I’d like to share the lessons I’ve learned from being ill. To give you some background, my healthy eating plan has slipped over the past few months. I repeated my pattern of starting the year strong, then slowly eating more and more chocolate and cakes and ended up ill with Candida. I had to go on a complete detox of all sugars including alcohol, fruit and sugar substitutes. I was feeling pretty rough due to Candida and subsequent die off symptoms. I started to feel better and then I came down with a flipping cold! On top of all that I’ve had a stressful few weeks at work. Continue reading “Lessons I’ve learned from being ill”

Interview about mental health with Suffolk User Forum on Radio Suffolk

Radio Suffolk interview on mental health.
Sam in the Green Room at Radio Suffolk waiting to be interviewed about mental health.

On Tuesday evening I had the privilege of being interviewed on Radio Suffolk’s Tuesday Night Takeover show about mental health with Jon Wright and Suffolk User Forum. I spoke of how my spiritual and Buddhist practices have helped me to overcome depression. Katie Mottram from Emerging Proud and author of Mend the Gap talked about the link between spirituality and mental health. Listen now. You can hear Katie at about 1 hour and 17 minutes and I’m on after that at about 1 hour and 40 minutes, along with Linda talking about Mindfulness.

Turn off your phone

Turn off your phone

How often do you turn off your phone? Or at least turn off notifications? I find there are two benefits of doing this. Firstly, I am much more productive. Secondly, life is much more peaceful.