How to Get What You Want – The Health Experiment

In my recent article How to Get What You Want – Focus on What You Want, I wrote about the importance of focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t want, as what you focus on is what you get. I always used to talk about not having any money and so I didn’t have any money. I changed my thinking and the abundance came. Now I am experiencing problems with my health. I have been ill with fatigue for the last twenty years and in the last year it has been much worse. I am always talking about how ill and tired I am and I know that in order to feel better I have to change my focus. The question is how can I avoid thinking and talking about being tired, when I am tired? What do I say when people ask me how I am?

In her book “A Return to Love”, Marianne Williamson recommends that when we are ill we ask ourselves how our thoughts have attracted this to us. When she was ill she asked herself “Where did my thinking deviate from the truth? Where was my wrong minded perception?” I have done the same for my fatigue and I realise that there are two reasons for it. 1) I like the attention and on some level I hope that my parents will pay me more attention and 2) I am sabotaging myself because I am on the verge of a transformational breakthrough and that scares me.  She recommends the following prayer:

“God, I totally understand how this happened. I return my mind to the point of my error and I atone. I go back. I ask that my perception be healed, and I ask to be released from the effects of my wrong minded thinking. Amen.”

Over the last week I have also been saying the following prayer, which I call the law of attraction prayer: “Please help me to use my words and my thoughts to attract good things into my life and attract vibrant physical and emotional health. I don’t know how I’m going to do it but I’m trusting in you that you can help me to find a way to do it. Please give me faith that my prayers will be answered.” I’ve been saying this prayer every day, at least once a day but I’ve still been feeling tired and I had to come home from work early yesterday as I was ill. As I drove home I prayed and asked why I’m still feeling tired when I’ve been trying so hard to be positive? The first thing that occurred to me that maybe “trying so hard” was the problem.

This morning I realised that I am thinking and talking about being ill a lot. So I’ve decided to do an experiment and stop thinking and talking about being ill. If I catch myself thinking about feeling ill I will say the law of attraction prayer. When people ask me how I am I will tell them that I’m getting better and that I’m thrilled to be alive, which is technically true. To a certain extent, it’s also important to admit how I feel to myself and to talk to someone about it, although I can choose one or two select friends or mentors to talk to, rather than talking about it to everyone I meet or communicate with. As well as admitting how I feel it’s also important to surrender to how I feel, accept it and take good care of myself.

I hope that the experiment will work and that I can attract vibrant physical and emotional health.

Dealing with Depression – Part Two

You may have noticed that my blog has been quiet lately. I’ve been experiencing a  period of fatigue and depression. I have often felt like giving it up. Sometimes it all feels too hard. When I feel like this, it’s made worse by the fact that I feel like a hypocrite and beat myself up for it.

It has been suggested by some of my friends and mentors that if I write honestly about my experience, not only will I benefit, I will help others as well. Being of service is known to be one of the keys to happiness.

Throughout this recent low time in my life I have neglected my daily happiness practices and I’m sure that contributes to the depression. It can be a vicious circle, whereas when I do my practices it can be a virtuous circle. I have a number of happiness practices including prayer, gratitude,  meditation, grounding, morning pages, visualistion, affirmations and intentions, of which the core rituals are prayer, gratitude, grounding, morning pages and meditation. I have written about some of these in previous blogs and others will be covered in future blogs. I am also intending to add Tai Chi. When I do these practices from day to day I often don’t feel as if they’re working but if I look closer I realise that life is smoother and serener when I do the rituals and life becomes chaotic when they’re missing. I still get down times when I do the rituals but they are fewer, there is more time in between and the down time is shorter.

Yesterday I felt very low and when I went to bed I couldn’t sleep. My mind was churning about what I should and shouldn’t be doing. I remembered two important happiness practices: surrender and ho’oponopono. I prayed for help to surrender and then lay there repeating to myself, “I surrender, I surrender.” I also repeated the ho’oponopono* prayer: “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.” Very soon I began to experience a sense of serenity and calm and I went off to sleep.

I would recommend that everyone incorporates some kind of happiness practices into their lives. They don’t have to be spriritual or religious practices. They can be tailored to suit your beliefs and needs. I would also recommend starting slowly with one or two practices and building on them. I sometimes try to do too much and then I get overwhelmed and end up doing nothing.

It has been my intention for a while now to start a happiness club to help myself to achieve happiness  and also to help others who can benefit from what I’ve learnt and continue to learn. I feel that this would benefit me and others enormously. There is a big part of me that is terrified of failure and that’s holding me back. I have to take the plunge and move forward with this project.

This reminds me of my dear friend Sarah Shepherd’s recent article about The Energies of May 2013, where she quoted Patrick Overton, “When you come to the edge of all the light you have, and must take a step into the darkness of the unknown, believe that one of two things will happen. Either there will be something solid for you to stand on or you will be taught how to fly.”

I’m praying to God and the angels to give me the courage to follow through with this project and I’m asking you to pray for me to whichever higher power you believe in and if you don’t believe in anything, please just send me some positive vibes.

I will be running happiness clubs in Ipswich and online. For more information and to register, please email me at sam_brook@hotmail.com and type “I want to learn to love myself” in the subject heading.

 

*Ho’oponopono will be covered in a future article.