Self-worth and bit pics

Self-worth and bit pics

Bit pics and how they are linked to a Woman’s Self-Worth

When I was single, I never ceased to be amazed by men sending me pictures of their bits. I’ve been in a relationship for over six years now but my single, and recently single friends, tell me bit pics are still very much a thing. I do not want to see pictures of my boyfriend’s bits, let alone a random stranger from Tinder or Plenty of Fish.

I struggle to think of even one woman who claims to like such pictures. Some say they like to receive them from their boyfriends, but I don’t think I’ve met anyone that wants to receive them from a stranger.

I used to wonder why a man would think that I wanted to see that kind of thing. Then realisation, mixed with a tiny bit of guilt and shame, washed over me as I realised that when my self-worth was considerably lower than it is now, I would encourage such pictures and even send nude pictures myself!

One memory stands out in particular. I met a guy at speed dating. He later turned out to be married, but that’s another story! He sent me pictures of his bits and asked me to send pictures of my boobs. I obliged to this, and to many other things, because I was a people pleaser. I thought if I wanted a relationship, I had to please men.

One friend says, “I learnt very early on that my value is directly linked to my sexuality and kinkiness.”

There is never an excuse for men to send pictures of their bits. I do wonder though if one of the reasons they send them is because some women encourage it. It’s also makes me wonder whether men send these pictures due to their own lack of self-worth.

Some of my friends tell me they never had a choice. These pictures just landed in their inbox. Others admit to accepting them because they are people pleasers. What about you? Have you received unsolicited pictures of men’s bits? Do you accept them?

Five to ten years later and my self-worth is a hell of a lot higher. A couple of years ago though I noticed that low self-worth was holding me back in other aspects of my life. It was manifesting as fear that was causing me to put off moving forward with Happiness Club. I received a promotion in my day job, and I experienced crippling fear and imposter syndrome. Does this sound familiar? Have you been held back by fear or imposter syndrome?

When a few friends also mentioned having some issues with low self-worth, I produced my course and free guide Happiness Club for Unlimited Self Esteem. The free guide is available when you sign up to my mailing list. The course is running live in Ipswich, Suffolk for six weeks from 25th June.

Through my research I learned how to overcome fear and imposter syndrome and invoke my Freakin’ Goddess! I am passionate about empowering other women to do the same.

What is your experience of bit pics? Have you ever received unwanted images? Let me know in the comments or in the Happiness Club Facebook Group.

2 Replies to “Self-worth and bit pics”

  1. A wonderfully written, thought and conversation provoking article Sam, thank you!

    It remains of interest how (if) male & female courtship will continue in future. With more technology but less communication; people meeting online over meeting in bars pubs and clubs and lines being redrawn for what is acceptable behaviour now….

    What place for physical attraction, personal physical touch and physical interaction?

    Will courtship be more like the introductions in a Jane Austin novel – a convoluted arranged sanitised process involving chaperones parents based on what is considered generally by onlookers to be a good match of persons -or will people date marry and mate based upon computer generated algorithms?

    Organic Feelings and emotions lust desire hormonal urges all sidelined and consigned to history.

    1. Thanks for taking the time to comment Mike. I know a lot of people who have met their partners online and maybe it is a necessary evil these days, for want of a better word. From my own experience, all of my best relationships have come as a result of being friends first.

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