First in a series of posts to help increase confidence and self-esteem
You know how sometimes we all experience fear and imposter syndrome? Well, in this series of posts I will share some tools for overcoming that and increasing confidence and self-esteem. Download your free guide to Unlimited Self-Esteem.
When I was younger, low self-esteem manifested as attracting the wrong kind of men and letting them treat me badly. My self-esteem is a hell of a lot better than it was 5 years ago but at the beginning of 2020 I realised that these issues were still holding me back. This time it showed it up as fear, imposter syndrome, worrying about what other people think, procrastination, judgment of myself and others and more. It was one of the biggest things holding me back in Happiness Club and it was also sabotaging my success in my day job.
I started researching ways to improve my self-esteem to help myself and others. Based on my learnings I have created an online course Happiness Club for Unlimited Self-Esteem and a free guide to Unlimited Self-Esteem.
As I mentioned, one of the ways that low self-esteem manifests is as imposter syndrome. Sometimes I feel that I don’t know what I’m doing and that one day someone will find out! Remember you only need to know a little bit more than your customers or your audience for them to see you as an expert.
I recently received a promotion at work. In my new role I am dealing with bigger clients, including professionals such as accountants and lawyers. I often feel intimidated as I feel that I am not as good as them. I noticed that I often put off calls with clients who I perceived were better than me. Shortly after I started the new role, I attended a webinar about fear with Actioncoach Nik Gray. Nik explained that we have three zones: a comfort zone, a performance zone, and a fear zone. We achieve the best results when we’re on the edge between our performance zone and our fear zone. He went on to say that if we do something we’re scared of for thirty days in a row, it moves us out of our fear zone and into our comfort zone.
As a result, I set myself a goal to make a call I was scared of making every day and to make it as early in the day as possible. I have noticed that those calls are getting easier. In fact, I often amaze myself at how well I deal with difficult questions. I know more than I realise.
What have you been putting off due to fear? Can you set a goal to do it every day for thirty days? How would it feel if you could overcome that fear? How would your life be different? Remember to keep asking what else? Let me know how you get on in the comments or in the Happiness Club Facebook Group.
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