Part of the Unlimited Self-Esteem Series
You know how sometimes we all experience fear and imposter syndrome? Well, in the Unlimited Self=Esteem series I will share some tools for overcoming that and increasing confidence and self-esteem. Download your free guide to Unlimited Self-Esteem now.
When I was younger, low self-esteem manifested as attracting the wrong kind of men and letting them treat me badly. My self-esteem is a hell of a lot better than it was but at the beginning of 2020 I realised these issues were still holding me back. This time it showed it up as fear, imposter syndrome, worrying about what other people thought, procrastination, judgment of myself and others and more. It was one of the biggest things holding me back with Happiness Club and it was also sabotaging my success in my day job.
I started researching ways to improve my self-esteem to help myself and others. Based on my learnings I have created an online course Happiness Club for Unlimited Self-Esteem and a free guide to Unlimited Self-Esteem.
As I mentioned, one of the ways that low self-esteem manifests is as imposter syndrome. Sometimes I feel that I don’t know what I’m doing and that one day someone will find out! Remember you only need to know a little bit more than your customers or your audience for them to see you as an expert.
Feel the fear and do it anyway
In 2021 I received a promotion at work. In my new role I was dealing with bigger clients, including professionals such as accountants and lawyers. I often felt intimidated as I felt that I was not as good as them. I noticed I often put off calls with clients who I perceived were better than me. Shortly after I started the new role, I attended a webinar about fear with Actioncoach Nik Gray. Nik explained that we have three zones: a comfort zone, a performance zone, and a fear zone. We achieve the best results when we’re on the edge between our performance zone and our fear zone. He went on to say that if we do something we’re scared of for thirty days in a row, it moves us out of our fear zone and into our comfort zone.
As a result, I set myself a goal to make a call I was scared of making every day and to make it as early in the day as possible. I noticed that those calls started getting easier. In fact, I often amazed myself at how well I dealt with difficult questions. I knew more than I realised.
What have you been putting off due to fear? Can you set a goal to do it every day for thirty days? How would it feel if you could overcome that fear? How would your life be different? Let me know how you in the comments or in the Happiness Club Facebook Group and let me know how you get on.
About me
I’m Samantha Brook.
I’m a Happiness blogger and coach.
I am the Amazon #1 bestselling author of Happiness Club: Learn to Be Happy and Get What You Want.
At Happiness Club, I am on a mission to make Happiness affordable and accessible.
I empower people who are fed up with feeling fed up to take action to feel Happier and Get What They Want.
If you’d like to work with me there are a few ways you can do that including 1. Subscribe to Happiness Club on Substack for *free*. 2. Buy the book – Happiness Club: Learn to Be Happy and Get What You Want! 3. Join the Happiness Club membership programme for only £11.11 per month. 4. Contact me for details of the Happiness Club workplace wellbeing programme. 5. Sign up for 1-2-1 intuitive Happiness coaching. 6. Buy the online course Happiness Club for Unlimited Self-Esteem or get the free guide.
