Last year a friend of mine gave me a recording of Earl Nightingale’s “The Strangest Secret”. I listened to it again this morning and it’s inspired me to take Earl’s 30 day challenge. Maybe you’d like to join me. Start by listening to the recording on YouTube by clicking here. Once you’ve listened to it, follow the steps below to get what you want.
1. Write one goal on a piece of card and look at it throughout the day. On one side write your goal and on the other side write “Ask and it is given, seek and you will find, knock and it shall be opened.”
2. Save 10% of everything you receive.
3. Tithe 10% of everything you receive.
4. Only think positive thoughts. Avoid complaining and putting yourself down.
5. Give whatever you’re doing 100% and more.
6. Give to others. Be of service.
7. If you find yourself in a negative mindset, start the 30 days again.
8. Keep your vibration high by dancing, singing, meditating and doing things you love and make you feel good.
9. Let go of attachment to the outcome. Let go of the need to know how it will happen. Trust in a power greater than yourself.
10. Be grateful for all the wonderful things you already have.
11. Join our Facebook group “How to Get What You Want – 30 day challenge” to share experiences and give and receive support.
Mike Dooley, mentioned in my previous article on detachment and surrender recommends visualising want you want for five minutes every day. He suggests that you stop after five minutes, even if you find that your mind has wandered. Abraham Hicks suggests that you can get what you want by visualising for just 68 seconds.
I have two techniques that I use to stop my mind wandering while visualising. The first is that I have written out my favourite visualisation and I read it out to myself. I have also recorded myself reading it and then I can just lie or sit down and listen to it while meditating. I believe that visualisation works because it helps our unconscious mind to focus on what it wants, it sends a message to the universe that this is what we want and it raises our vibration as mentioned in my previous articles.
When you visualise what you want it’s more powerful if you engage all your senses. One of the things I want is to live on the beach and when I visualise it, not only can I see the beach, in my minds eye, I can also hear the waves lapping on the shore and the seagulls crying in the sky above me. I feel my barefeet sinking into the warm sand and the wind blowing my hair. I can smell the seaweed and taste the salty air on my lips.
Visualise what you want for between one and five minutes daily. Remember to keep it positive and focused on what you want rather than what you don’t want. Be sure to enage all five senses to make it more real and powerful. To make it easier, write out your visualisation and/or record it.
Dear God/Universe/Angels/Higher Self/Higher Power,
Please show me clearly what it is that I want to do today. Please show me clearly what I want so that I can keep focusing on it. Please help me to focus what I want and let go of what I don’t want. Please show me clearly how I can raise my vibration. Please show me clearly how I can align with source. Things are always working out for me. Things are always working out for my highest good.
And so it is.
I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.
With thanks to Abraham Hicks
Well I am back on form after spending weeks feeling extremely tired and depressed. At the time it was awful. I felt as though my life was over. I thought I’d never be able to get a job again, never pay off my debts, never get into a relationship. I knew that my thinking wasn’t helping and I was just spiraling deeper and deeper into depression. I felt suicidal nearly every day. The thing that kept me going was the knowledge and experience that I had been through this before and that it would pass, even though it didn’t feel like it. I also knew that such periods often precede times of love and abundance. One of my mentors reminded me that “the greatest gifts often come from the greatest struggles.” Lots of things helped to eventually come out of the depression but the two things that really helped were surrender and anti-depressants.
I have talked about surrender before and I still believe that it is the ultimate key to life. I kept trying to fight the fatigue and depression. I would spend a couple of days resting and then I would say to myself “Right, that’s enough of that. Time to get on with life. Time to pull yourself together.” At one point I received guidance through an energy reading to stop resisting and rest for at least a week. Deep down I already knew this but every time I rested I felt guilty and beat myself up. The guidance from the reading made me feel as though I had permission to rest without guilt. I spent most of the next week sat in front of the TV and comfort eating. I went swimming and went for walks in the park but only when I felt I wanted to and not because I was forcing myself. I also kept saying my law of attraction prayer mentioned in my previous article How to Get What You Want – The Health Experiment.
Illness can come when we resist our bodies need to recuperate. Illness forces us to stop and take time out. Down times help us to grow spiritually. Times of rest are essential for our bodies to re-engerise and the quicker we rest and the less we resist the easier it will be and the quicker such periods will pass.
Anti-depressants are often a taboo subject, especially in “spiritual” and “self-help” circles. Many believe that taking anti-depressants, along with such things as eating meat and drinking alcohol lower your vibration and disconnect you from God, the Universe, source energy or whatever label we put on our higher power. I believe in an ideal world maybe we wouldn’t need anti-depressants, eat meat or drink alcohol and I believe that maybe one day that is how we will live (although alcohol and marijuana are natural products, created by the Divine, so who knows?). However, I don’t believe we have reached that point yet. I asked my higher power to heal me and anti-depressants is one of the modalities s/he uses to achieve that.
One of my aims through writing this blog is to take away the stigma of depression and anti-depressants. I saw an excellent video by TED this morning on this very subject. A teenage boy talks about depression and the stigma of it and how we can overcome it. I don’t like to admit that I have depression. I am scared that people will judge me as a weirdo. I don’t like to talk to people about how I feel as I think that if I do that won’t want to be my friend anymore as they’ll be scared that my negativity will rub off on them. One well meaning friend often says to me, “we all get a bit low sometimes.” She just doesn’t get it and that can be hurtful.
Another one of my mentors is a satvic energy healer and she calls her anti-depressants her “God Pills.” She helped me to recognise that anti-depressants can help and support me as I build healthy habits in my life. I am hoping that once I have built these habits I can come off the medication and if not then that’s OK. I have an under-active thyroid and I have to take thyroxine for the rest of my life. Diabetics have to take insulin for the rest of their lives. Some people that have depression have to take anti-depressants for the rest of their lives.
While I was in my period of depression, all my good habits and practices mentioned in my previous article Dealing with Depression – Part Two went out of the window. I have been feeling better consistently since 16th June and I have began my practices again. I have also added Buddhist chanting to my list of practices. I am very chilled about these practices. I only do them if I want to do (and I usually do!) and I don’t do them all every day. As a minimum I usually pray and meditate. I aim to go for a swim and / or get out for a walk in nature as often as possible. I keep surrendering to my higher power and trust that s/he has everything under control. All of these things bring me so much peace and serenity and I have to say I love it.
In my recent article How to Get What You Want – Focus on What You Want, I wrote about the importance of focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t want, as what you focus on is what you get. I always used to talk about not having any money and so I didn’t have any money. I changed my thinking and the abundance came. Now I am experiencing problems with my health. I have been ill with fatigue for the last twenty years and in the last year it has been much worse. I am always talking about how ill and tired I am and I know that in order to feel better I have to change my focus. The question is how can I avoid thinking and talking about being tired, when I am tired? What do I say when people ask me how I am?
In her book “A Return to Love”, Marianne Williamson recommends that when we are ill we ask ourselves how our thoughts have attracted this to us. When she was ill she asked herself “Where did my thinking deviate from the truth? Where was my wrong minded perception?” I have done the same for my fatigue and I realise that there are two reasons for it. 1) I like the attention and on some level I hope that my parents will pay me more attention and 2) I am sabotaging myself because I am on the verge of a transformational breakthrough and that scares me. She recommends the following prayer:
“God, I totally understand how this happened. I return my mind to the point of my error and I atone. I go back. I ask that my perception be healed, and I ask to be released from the effects of my wrong minded thinking. Amen.”
Over the last week I have also been saying the following prayer, which I call the law of attraction prayer: “Please help me to use my words and my thoughts to attract good things into my life and attract vibrant physical and emotional health. I don’t know how I’m going to do it but I’m trusting in you that you can help me to find a way to do it. Please give me faith that my prayers will be answered.” I’ve been saying this prayer every day, at least once a day but I’ve still been feeling tired and I had to come home from work early yesterday as I was ill. As I drove home I prayed and asked why I’m still feeling tired when I’ve been trying so hard to be positive? The first thing that occurred to me that maybe “trying so hard” was the problem.
This morning I realised that I am thinking and talking about being ill a lot. So I’ve decided to do an experiment and stop thinking and talking about being ill. If I catch myself thinking about feeling ill I will say the law of attraction prayer. When people ask me how I am I will tell them that I’m getting better and that I’m thrilled to be alive, which is technically true. To a certain extent, it’s also important to admit how I feel to myself and to talk to someone about it, although I can choose one or two select friends or mentors to talk to, rather than talking about it to everyone I meet or communicate with. As well as admitting how I feel it’s also important to surrender to how I feel, accept it and take good care of myself.
I hope that the experiment will work and that I can attract vibrant physical and emotional health.
How to Get What You Want – Setting Intentions
Ancient wisdom talks about the law of attraction and it is mentioned in holy writings, including the bible and the Qur’an. Jesus said “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” – Matthew 7:7 and the Qu’ran says, “God promises you … abundance” Quran 2:268 Surat Al-Baqara
In his book The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, Deepak Chopra suggests writing a list of intentions and reading that list first thing in the morning, before bed and before meditating. He also recommends carrying that list around with you. I started doing this in November 2011 and within a few months I had manifest a flat, a car, a great job with a high salary, a relationship with someone that I believe to be my soulmate and an abundance of other things.
Once you have set the intentions, release them into the universe and trust. You don’t need to know how your intentions will manifest and the more detached you are from the outcome, the quicker it will come. I will cover detachment in my next blog post.
Exercise: write your own personal list of intentions. Read it first thing in the morning, before bed and before meditating. Carry a copy around with you.
In the last year or so I have become extremely good at getting what I want. People keep asking me how I do it, so I’m planning to write a series of articles about the techniques I use, to teach you how to get what you want.
I believe these techniques work for two reasons. The first is the law of attraction. My understanding of the law of attraction is that like attracts like, what you focus on is what you get and Thoughts Become Things. This concept was made popular by Abraham Hicks, as well as books and films such as The Secret and What the bleep do we know?. The idea is that our words and thoughts send out vibrations to the universe and the universe responds with the same vibration. The second reason is that what we focus on has an impact on our subconscious mind. When we set an intention that we want something our unconsciously we start seeking ways to achieve that intention. When we set goals and focus on them, our subconscious mind is reminded about those goals. Some would say that the universe brings us creative ideas about how to achieve our goals and intentions.
Many people say that the law of attraction doesn’t work. The law of attraction is always working and we always receive whatever it is that we’re focusing on. The Secret did a great job of taking the law of attraction into the mainstream and bringing it to people’s attention, although in my humble opinion it only skimmed the surface. People are practicing the techniques in The Secret, such as affirmations and visualisation for maybe ten minutes in the morning and then spending the rest of the day worrying and complaining. Worrying and complaining are negative forms of affirmations and focusing on all the negative things in your life will bring more of the same.
As many of you know we experienced a big energy shift in December 2012 and as a result of the new energies coming in, we are manifesting very quickly. This means that it’s imperative that we are aware of what we’re focusing on as we can either manifest good things or bad things in our lives. On a positive note, this means that we can dream big and manifest great things with this energy.
My intention is that through this series of articles you can learn simple tools and techniques to help you focus on what you DO want and attract more of that into your life. So please become a follower of my blog to keep up to date with my latest articles and so that you too can learn how to get what you want.