Change the subject or as Abraham Hicks puts it, “get off the subject.” When we have problems we seem to be addicted to talking about them. It’s as if we think that if we talk our problems enough we will find a magical solution or someone will wave a magic wand. In fact, the opposite is true. When we keep talking about our problems, we are focusing on what we don’t want and the message we give to our unconscious mind and the universe is that we want more of the same. The answer is to hand our problems over to a higher power, trust and surrender. I have found that this has two benefits. Firstly I have the serenity that comes from trusting and knowing that everything is going to be OK. Secondly, the quicker I do this, the faster the solution comes.
Having said all that, it is important to acknowledge our problems and notice the feelings they bring up. It can be healing to talk about them with a trusted friend or advisor. There is a difference between acknowledging our problems and repeatedly complaining about them. This is a lesson that I am still learning. The more I practice, the easier it gets.
Notice when you are talking about your problems. Ask yourself if you’re acknowledging your problems in a healthy way or repeatedly complaining about them.