It’s a beautiful day again. It may be cold and grey outside but it’s always a beautiful day in recovery. Always a beautiful day when you’re connected to Divine source energy.
Change the subject or as Abraham Hicks puts it, “get off the subject.” When we have problems we seem to be addicted to talking about them. It’s as if we think that if we talk our problems enough we will find a magical solution or someone will wave a magic wand. In fact, the opposite is true. When we keep talking about our problems, we are focusing on what we don’t want and the message we give to our unconscious mind and the universe is that we want more of the same. The answer is to hand our problems over to a higher power, trust and surrender. I have found that this has two benefits. Firstly I have the serenity that comes from trusting and knowing that everything is going to be OK. Secondly, the quicker I do this, the faster the solution comes.
Having said all that, it is important to acknowledge our problems and notice the feelings they bring up. It can be healing to talk about them with a trusted friend or advisor. There is a difference between acknowledging our problems and repeatedly complaining about them. This is a lesson that I am still learning. The more I practice, the easier it gets.
Notice when you are talking about your problems. Ask yourself if you’re acknowledging your problems in a healthy way or repeatedly complaining about them.
“And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation – some fact of my life unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and my attitudes.” – The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
Every time we say or think something we are sending out vibrations to the universe and we’re also sending messages to our unconscious mind, so it’s really important to watch what we think and say. If you want to remember to do something, you can either say “I mustn’t forget to do X,” or “I must remember to do X”. In the first example, we’re focusing on what we don’t want and our unconscious mind and the universe connect to the word ‘forget’. In the second instance, our unconscious mind and the universe connect to the word remember. Another example is saying either “I hope it doesn’t rain today” or “I hope we have nice weather today.”
I’ve noticed that people often say “no worries” or “no problem”. If someone says “thank you” or “sorry” and we say “no worries” or “no problem” both our unconscious mind and the unconscious mind of the other person is focused on the words “worries” and “problem.” As an alternative try saying “my pleasure”, “you’re welcome” or “it’s OK” instead.
Some believe that everything in life comes down to a choice between love and fear. Bearing that in mind, I would recommend avoiding using the phrase “I’m afraid,” i.e. “I’m afraid there are no appointments left on Thursday.” Another word I try to avoid is “awfully,” i.e. “it’s an awfully long way to go.”
- Become aware of your words and thoughts and how you can change them into focusing on what you want and / or something more positive.
- Write a list of negative words or phrases that you use and write another list of alternative words or phrases.
When I say God, I mean the God of my understanding; my higher power, the Universe, the Angels, the Divine, my Higher Self, Buddha, The Tao. I believe in all of those things and I believe that they are inside me. I am the Universe. God is within me. We are all one and all part of the Divine. We are part of the universe and the universe is part of us.
For sometime now I have been healing through means of recovery programmes that encourage me to admit that I’m powerless and hand my problems over to God. I have no problem handing over my problems to God, although admittedly, sometimes I forget. When I first considered the idea of admitting that I’m powerless however, I felt a huge amount of resistance. “I am powerful. I have already made a number of significant changes in my life. I have had a number of successes,” I said to myself. After considering this and journaling about it I realized that I am powerful, by the grace of God. The Divine within me is what makes me powerful and without that I am nothing. My life is always smoother and more successful when I put my life in God’s hands.
Based on learnings from these programmes and teachings such as those of Marianne Williamson and Doreen Virtue, I say the following prayer every morning:
Dear God and the Angels,
Please send me the willingness to do your will and get out of the way so that your will can be done. Please show me clearly what your will for me is.
What would you have me do today? Where would you have me go? What would you have me say and to whom? What would you have me wear? How would you have me do my hair? How would you have me serve humanity?
Thank you. And so it is. Amen
I can hear some of you questioning and even ridiculing the part where I ask what I should I wear and how I should do my hair. This feels right for me and I believe that nothing is too small for God and the Angels to help with. I think my Angels enjoy helping me choose my clothes. They are my girlfriends after all. In my minds eye, I can see my angels pulling a dress out from my wardrobe and holding it up saying, “what about this one?”
I hope this prayer resonates with you and if so I encourage you to use it or devise your own. Enjoy the process and have fun with your higher power as you make choices together. Know that your Higher Power loves you and wants to wrap you up in comfort and security.
Use this prayer daily, write your own or find something similar online. Remember to have fun with it.
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Mike Dooley, mentioned in my previous article on detachment and surrender recommends visualising want you want for five minutes every day. He suggests that you stop after five minutes, even if you find that your mind has wandered. Abraham Hicks suggests that you can get what you want by visualising for just 68 seconds.
I have two techniques that I use to stop my mind wandering while visualising. The first is that I have written out my favourite visualisation and I read it out to myself. I have also recorded myself reading it and then I can just lie or sit down and listen to it while meditating. I believe that visualisation works because it helps our unconscious mind to focus on what it wants, it sends a message to the universe that this is what we want and it raises our vibration as mentioned in my previous articles.
When you visualise what you want it’s more powerful if you engage all your senses. One of the things I want is to live on the beach and when I visualise it, not only can I see the beach, in my minds eye, I can also hear the waves lapping on the shore and the seagulls crying in the sky above me. I feel my barefeet sinking into the warm sand and the wind blowing my hair. I can smell the seaweed and taste the salty air on my lips.
Visualise what you want for between one and five minutes daily. Remember to keep it positive and focused on what you want rather than what you don’t want. Be sure to enage all five senses to make it more real and powerful. To make it easier, write out your visualisation and/or record it.
Dear God/Universe/Angels/Higher Self/Higher Power,
Please show me clearly what it is that I want to do today. Please show me clearly what I want so that I can keep focusing on it. Please help me to focus what I want and let go of what I don’t want. Please show me clearly how I can raise my vibration. Please show me clearly how I can align with source. Things are always working out for me. Things are always working out for my highest good.
And so it is.
I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.
With thanks to Abraham Hicks
Well I am back on form after spending weeks feeling extremely tired and depressed. At the time it was awful. I felt as though my life was over. I thought I’d never be able to get a job again, never pay off my debts, never get into a relationship. I knew that my thinking wasn’t helping and I was just spiraling deeper and deeper into depression. I felt suicidal nearly every day. The thing that kept me going was the knowledge and experience that I had been through this before and that it would pass, even though it didn’t feel like it. I also knew that such periods often precede times of love and abundance. One of my mentors reminded me that “the greatest gifts often come from the greatest struggles.” Lots of things helped to eventually come out of the depression but the two things that really helped were surrender and anti-depressants.
I have talked about surrender before and I still believe that it is the ultimate key to life. I kept trying to fight the fatigue and depression. I would spend a couple of days resting and then I would say to myself “Right, that’s enough of that. Time to get on with life. Time to pull yourself together.” At one point I received guidance through an energy reading to stop resisting and rest for at least a week. Deep down I already knew this but every time I rested I felt guilty and beat myself up. The guidance from the reading made me feel as though I had permission to rest without guilt. I spent most of the next week sat in front of the TV and comfort eating. I went swimming and went for walks in the park but only when I felt I wanted to and not because I was forcing myself. I also kept saying my law of attraction prayer mentioned in my previous article How to Get What You Want – The Health Experiment.
Illness can come when we resist our bodies need to recuperate. Illness forces us to stop and take time out. Down times help us to grow spiritually. Times of rest are essential for our bodies to re-engerise and the quicker we rest and the less we resist the easier it will be and the quicker such periods will pass.
Anti-depressants are often a taboo subject, especially in “spiritual” and “self-help” circles. Many believe that taking anti-depressants, along with such things as eating meat and drinking alcohol lower your vibration and disconnect you from God, the Universe, source energy or whatever label we put on our higher power. I believe in an ideal world maybe we wouldn’t need anti-depressants, eat meat or drink alcohol and I believe that maybe one day that is how we will live (although alcohol and marijuana are natural products, created by the Divine, so who knows?). However, I don’t believe we have reached that point yet. I asked my higher power to heal me and anti-depressants is one of the modalities s/he uses to achieve that.
One of my aims through writing this blog is to take away the stigma of depression and anti-depressants. I saw an excellent video by TED this morning on this very subject. A teenage boy talks about depression and the stigma of it and how we can overcome it. I don’t like to admit that I have depression. I am scared that people will judge me as a weirdo. I don’t like to talk to people about how I feel as I think that if I do that won’t want to be my friend anymore as they’ll be scared that my negativity will rub off on them. One well meaning friend often says to me, “we all get a bit low sometimes.” She just doesn’t get it and that can be hurtful.
Another one of my mentors is a satvic energy healer and she calls her anti-depressants her “God Pills.” She helped me to recognise that anti-depressants can help and support me as I build healthy habits in my life. I am hoping that once I have built these habits I can come off the medication and if not then that’s OK. I have an under-active thyroid and I have to take thyroxine for the rest of my life. Diabetics have to take insulin for the rest of their lives. Some people that have depression have to take anti-depressants for the rest of their lives.
While I was in my period of depression, all my good habits and practices mentioned in my previous article Dealing with Depression – Part Two went out of the window. I have been feeling better consistently since 16th June and I have began my practices again. I have also added Buddhist chanting to my list of practices. I am very chilled about these practices. I only do them if I want to do (and I usually do!) and I don’t do them all every day. As a minimum I usually pray and meditate. I aim to go for a swim and / or get out for a walk in nature as often as possible. I keep surrendering to my higher power and trust that s/he has everything under control. All of these things bring me so much peace and serenity and I have to say I love it.
In my recent article How to Get What You Want – Focus on What You Want, I wrote about the importance of focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t want, as what you focus on is what you get. I always used to talk about not having any money and so I didn’t have any money. I changed my thinking and the abundance came. Now I am experiencing problems with my health. I have been ill with fatigue for the last twenty years and in the last year it has been much worse. I am always talking about how ill and tired I am and I know that in order to feel better I have to change my focus. The question is how can I avoid thinking and talking about being tired, when I am tired? What do I say when people ask me how I am?
In her book “A Return to Love”, Marianne Williamson recommends that when we are ill we ask ourselves how our thoughts have attracted this to us. When she was ill she asked herself “Where did my thinking deviate from the truth? Where was my wrong minded perception?” I have done the same for my fatigue and I realise that there are two reasons for it. 1) I like the attention and on some level I hope that my parents will pay me more attention and 2) I am sabotaging myself because I am on the verge of a transformational breakthrough and that scares me. She recommends the following prayer:
“God, I totally understand how this happened. I return my mind to the point of my error and I atone. I go back. I ask that my perception be healed, and I ask to be released from the effects of my wrong minded thinking. Amen.”
Over the last week I have also been saying the following prayer, which I call the law of attraction prayer: “Please help me to use my words and my thoughts to attract good things into my life and attract vibrant physical and emotional health. I don’t know how I’m going to do it but I’m trusting in you that you can help me to find a way to do it. Please give me faith that my prayers will be answered.” I’ve been saying this prayer every day, at least once a day but I’ve still been feeling tired and I had to come home from work early yesterday as I was ill. As I drove home I prayed and asked why I’m still feeling tired when I’ve been trying so hard to be positive? The first thing that occurred to me that maybe “trying so hard” was the problem.
This morning I realised that I am thinking and talking about being ill a lot. So I’ve decided to do an experiment and stop thinking and talking about being ill. If I catch myself thinking about feeling ill I will say the law of attraction prayer. When people ask me how I am I will tell them that I’m getting better and that I’m thrilled to be alive, which is technically true. To a certain extent, it’s also important to admit how I feel to myself and to talk to someone about it, although I can choose one or two select friends or mentors to talk to, rather than talking about it to everyone I meet or communicate with. As well as admitting how I feel it’s also important to surrender to how I feel, accept it and take good care of myself.
I hope that the experiment will work and that I can attract vibrant physical and emotional health.