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Visualisation

Mike Dooley, mentioned in my previous article on detachment and surrender recommends visualising want you want for five minutes every day. He suggests that you stop after five minutes, even if you find that your mind has wandered. Abraham Hicks suggests that you can get what you want by visualising for just 68 seconds.

I have two techniques that I use to stop my mind wandering while visualising. The first is that I have written out my favourite visualisation and I read it out to myself. I have also recorded myself reading it and then I can just lie or sit down and listen to it while meditating. I believe that visualisation works because it helps our unconscious mind to focus on what it wants, it sends a message to the universe that this is what we want and it raises our vibration as mentioned in my previous articles.

When you visualise what you want it’s more powerful if you engage all your senses. One of the things I want is to live on the beach and when I visualise it, not only can I see the beach, in my minds eye, I can also hear the waves lapping on the shore and the seagulls crying in the sky above me. I feel my barefeet sinking into the warm sand and the wind blowing my hair. I can smell the seaweed and taste the salty air on my lips.

Exercise:

Visualise what you want for between one and five minutes daily. Remember to keep it positive and focused on what you want rather than what you don’t want. Be sure to enage all five senses to make it more real and powerful. To make it easier, write out your visualisation and/or record it.

Law of Attraction Prayer – number two

Dear God/Universe/Angels/Higher Self/Higher Power,

Please show me clearly what it is that I want to do today. Please show me clearly what I want so that I can keep focusing on it. Please help me to focus what I want and let go of what I don’t want. Please show me clearly how I can raise my vibration. Please show me clearly how I can align with source. Things are always working out for me. Things are always working out for my highest good.

And so it is.

I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.

Amen.

With thanks to Abraham Hicks

Dealing with Depression – Part Three

 

Well I am back on form after spending weeks feeling extremely tired and depressed. At the time it was awful. I felt as though my life was over. I thought I’d never be able to get a job again, never pay off my debts, never get into a relationship. I knew that my thinking wasn’t helping and I was just spiraling deeper and deeper into depression. I felt suicidal nearly every day. The thing that kept me going was the knowledge and experience that I had been through this before and that it would pass, even though it didn’t feel like it. I also knew that such periods often precede times of love and abundance. One of my mentors reminded me that “the greatest gifts often come from the greatest struggles.” Lots of things helped to eventually come out of the depression but the two things that really helped were surrender and anti-depressants.

I have talked about surrender before and I still believe that it is the ultimate key to life. I kept trying to fight the fatigue and depression. I would spend a couple of days resting and then I would say to myself “Right, that’s enough of that. Time to get on with life. Time to pull yourself together.” At one point I received guidance through an energy reading to stop resisting and rest for at least a week. Deep down I already knew this but every time I rested I felt guilty and beat myself up. The guidance from the reading made me feel as though I had permission to rest without guilt. I spent most of the next week sat in front of the TV and comfort eating. I went swimming and went for walks in the park but only when I felt I wanted to and not because I was forcing myself. I also kept saying my law of attraction prayer mentioned in my previous article How to Get What You Want – The Health Experiment.

Illness can come when we resist our bodies need to recuperate. Illness forces us to stop and take time out. Down times help us to grow spiritually. Times of rest are essential for our bodies to re-engerise and the quicker we rest and the less we resist the easier it will be and the quicker such periods will pass.

Anti-depressants are often a taboo subject, especially in “spiritual” and “self-help” circles. Many believe that taking anti-depressants, along with such things as eating meat and drinking alcohol lower your vibration and disconnect you from God, the Universe, source energy or whatever label we put on our higher power. I believe in an ideal world maybe we wouldn’t need anti-depressants, eat meat or drink alcohol and I believe that maybe one day that is how we will live (although alcohol and marijuana are natural products, created by the Divine, so who knows?). However, I don’t believe we have reached that point yet. I asked my higher power to heal me and anti-depressants is one of the modalities s/he uses to achieve that.

One of my aims through writing this blog is to take away the stigma of depression and anti-depressants. I saw an excellent video by TED this morning on this very subject. A teenage boy talks about depression and the stigma of it and how we can overcome it. I don’t like to admit that I have depression. I am scared that people will judge me as a weirdo. I don’t like to talk to people about how I feel as I think that if I do that won’t want to be my friend anymore as they’ll be scared that my negativity will rub off on them.  One well meaning friend often says to me, “we all get a bit low sometimes.” She just doesn’t get it and that can be hurtful.

Another one of my mentors is a satvic energy healer and she calls her anti-depressants her “God Pills.” She helped me to recognise that anti-depressants can help and support me as I build healthy habits in my life. I am hoping that once I have built these habits I can come off the medication and if not then that’s OK. I have an under-active thyroid and I have to take thyroxine for the rest of my life. Diabetics have to take insulin for the rest of their lives. Some people that have depression have to take anti-depressants for the rest of their lives.

While I was in my period of depression, all my good habits and practices mentioned in my previous article Dealing with Depression – Part Two went out of the window. I have been feeling better consistently since 16th June and I have began my practices again. I have also added Buddhist chanting to my list of practices. I am very chilled about these practices. I only do them if I want to do (and I usually do!) and I don’t do them all every day. As a minimum I usually pray and meditate. I aim to go for a swim and / or get out for a walk in nature as often as possible. I keep surrendering to my higher power and trust that s/he has everything under control. All of these things bring me so much peace and serenity and I have to say I love it.

 

How to Get What You Want – The Health Experiment

In my recent article How to Get What You Want – Focus on What You Want, I wrote about the importance of focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t want, as what you focus on is what you get. I always used to talk about not having any money and so I didn’t have any money. I changed my thinking and the abundance came. Now I am experiencing problems with my health. I have been ill with fatigue for the last twenty years and in the last year it has been much worse. I am always talking about how ill and tired I am and I know that in order to feel better I have to change my focus. The question is how can I avoid thinking and talking about being tired, when I am tired? What do I say when people ask me how I am?

In her book “A Return to Love”, Marianne Williamson recommends that when we are ill we ask ourselves how our thoughts have attracted this to us. When she was ill she asked herself “Where did my thinking deviate from the truth? Where was my wrong minded perception?” I have done the same for my fatigue and I realise that there are two reasons for it. 1) I like the attention and on some level I hope that my parents will pay me more attention and 2) I am sabotaging myself because I am on the verge of a transformational breakthrough and that scares me.  She recommends the following prayer:

“God, I totally understand how this happened. I return my mind to the point of my error and I atone. I go back. I ask that my perception be healed, and I ask to be released from the effects of my wrong minded thinking. Amen.”

Over the last week I have also been saying the following prayer, which I call the law of attraction prayer: “Please help me to use my words and my thoughts to attract good things into my life and attract vibrant physical and emotional health. I don’t know how I’m going to do it but I’m trusting in you that you can help me to find a way to do it. Please give me faith that my prayers will be answered.” I’ve been saying this prayer every day, at least once a day but I’ve still been feeling tired and I had to come home from work early yesterday as I was ill. As I drove home I prayed and asked why I’m still feeling tired when I’ve been trying so hard to be positive? The first thing that occurred to me that maybe “trying so hard” was the problem.

This morning I realised that I am thinking and talking about being ill a lot. So I’ve decided to do an experiment and stop thinking and talking about being ill. If I catch myself thinking about feeling ill I will say the law of attraction prayer. When people ask me how I am I will tell them that I’m getting better and that I’m thrilled to be alive, which is technically true. To a certain extent, it’s also important to admit how I feel to myself and to talk to someone about it, although I can choose one or two select friends or mentors to talk to, rather than talking about it to everyone I meet or communicate with. As well as admitting how I feel it’s also important to surrender to how I feel, accept it and take good care of myself.

I hope that the experiment will work and that I can attract vibrant physical and emotional health.

Dealing with Depression – Part Two

You may have noticed that my blog has been quiet lately. I’ve been experiencing a  period of fatigue and depression. I have often felt like giving it up. Sometimes it all feels too hard. When I feel like this, it’s made worse by the fact that I feel like a hypocrite and beat myself up for it.

It has been suggested by some of my friends and mentors that if I write honestly about my experience, not only will I benefit, I will help others as well. Being of service is known to be one of the keys to happiness.

Throughout this recent low time in my life I have neglected my daily happiness practices and I’m sure that contributes to the depression. It can be a vicious circle, whereas when I do my practices it can be a virtuous circle. I have a number of happiness practices including prayer, gratitude,  meditation, grounding, morning pages, visualistion, affirmations and intentions, of which the core rituals are prayer, gratitude, grounding, morning pages and meditation. I have written about some of these in previous blogs and others will be covered in future blogs. I am also intending to add Tai Chi. When I do these practices from day to day I often don’t feel as if they’re working but if I look closer I realise that life is smoother and serener when I do the rituals and life becomes chaotic when they’re missing. I still get down times when I do the rituals but they are fewer, there is more time in between and the down time is shorter.

Yesterday I felt very low and when I went to bed I couldn’t sleep. My mind was churning about what I should and shouldn’t be doing. I remembered two important happiness practices: surrender and ho’oponopono. I prayed for help to surrender and then lay there repeating to myself, “I surrender, I surrender.” I also repeated the ho’oponopono* prayer: “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.” Very soon I began to experience a sense of serenity and calm and I went off to sleep.

I would recommend that everyone incorporates some kind of happiness practices into their lives. They don’t have to be spriritual or religious practices. They can be tailored to suit your beliefs and needs. I would also recommend starting slowly with one or two practices and building on them. I sometimes try to do too much and then I get overwhelmed and end up doing nothing.

It has been my intention for a while now to start a happiness club to help myself to achieve happiness  and also to help others who can benefit from what I’ve learnt and continue to learn. I feel that this would benefit me and others enormously. There is a big part of me that is terrified of failure and that’s holding me back. I have to take the plunge and move forward with this project.

This reminds me of my dear friend Sarah Shepherd’s recent article about The Energies of May 2013, where she quoted Patrick Overton, “When you come to the edge of all the light you have, and must take a step into the darkness of the unknown, believe that one of two things will happen. Either there will be something solid for you to stand on or you will be taught how to fly.”

I’m praying to God and the angels to give me the courage to follow through with this project and I’m asking you to pray for me to whichever higher power you believe in and if you don’t believe in anything, please just send me some positive vibes.

I will be running happiness clubs in Ipswich and online. For more information and to register, please email me at sam_brook@hotmail.com and type “I want to learn to love myself” in the subject heading.

 

*Ho’oponopono will be covered in a future article.

How to Get What You Want – Focus on What You Want

Focus on what you want because what you focus on is what you get. Energy flows where attention goes.  If you focus on problems, you’ll get more problems. Reframe the problem and turn it around. When we focus on our problems we’re focusing on what we don’t want. Think about what you do want and focus on that. For example: What is the problem? My boss is a bitch. What don’t you want? I don’t want my boss to be a bitch. What do you want? I want my boss to be nice to me and treat me with respect. This creates a shift in our thoughts and our vibration. You will find that just by shifting your thoughts from what you don’t want, to what you do want, will make you feel better and you will start to manifest what you do want.

It’s also important to avoid complaining. Complaining is focusing on what you what you don’t want. If you complain that your boss is a bitch, not only will she keep being a bitch, but when you get a new boss and / or a new job, the likelihood is that your new boss will also be a bitch, or the male equivalent. The same goes with relationships and pretty much anything in your life. Another way to reframe a situation or person is to think about the good things about it or them.

I used to work with a guy who really used to piss me off. He was always interfering with my work and trying to tell me how to do my job. He made me feel so angry and we were always at loggerheads. One day, after doing an exercise from “Calling in the One” by Katherine Woodward Thomas, I started to look at the situation differently. I thought about this guy and I realized that he had good motives. He loved his job and he wanted to make sure that things were done correctly. From that day forward our relationship improved dramatically.

Another area that people often complain about or worry about is money. I used to always talk about not having any money and guess what? I never had any. It became a self-fulfilling prophecy. Now I think about all the great things I have in my life and say thank you for them. I donate to charity even in months when I have a lower income, because I am prosperous  and  there’s plenty in the universe for everyone. When I pay my bills, I bless them with love and give thanks for having a beautiful flat and lots of money to pay my rent and bills. I have an abundance of wonderful things in my life and I count my blessings.

I often hear people say “I can’t get a job because of the economy.”  Turn that around and whenever you find yourself thinking that, say to yourself “that might be true for some but it doesn’t have to be true for me.”

Exercises:

1)      Think of a problem that you have and ask yourself what you don’t want. Then ask yourself what you do want. Every time  you think about the problem, turn it around and focus on what you do want.

2)      Think of a person or a situation that is bothering you. Think of all the good things that you can about that person or situation.

3)      Give to charity every month, even if it’s only £1.

4)      When you pay your bills, bless them with love and be thankful that you have plenty of money to pay them.

Dealing with Depression

I am taking a break from my ‘How to Get What You Want’ series to bring you some tips on dealing with depression, based on my own personal experience. Despite the fact that I have a wonderful life and I practice my spiritual rituals every day, I still get depressed. This usually passes within a day or sometimes even an hour or two.  I sometimes feel like a bit of a hypocrite writing this blog when I have moments of depression, so I thought I would be transparent, write about it and share the techniques that I use to deal with such episodes.

This too shall pass

I know from experience that things always get better and I find it helps to repeat to myself, “This too shall pass.”

Sleep

I have noticed that I often feel low when I’m tired and that having a nap can work wonders. I get tired and then I can’t be bothered to do anything, so I sit around in my pyjamas watching TV and eating chocolate. I can’t be arsed to go out and have fun or do something constructive. Yesterday I felt like this. I had plans to go out in the evening but I suddenly felt really tired and low. I was going to cancel my plans but instead I had a nap, felt loads better, went out in the evening and had a lot of fun.

Do one small thing

One of the things that causes me to feel low is feeling overwhelmed with too much to do and so I don’t do anything. I usually find that doing one small thing changes my state and gets the momentum going for me to get other things done. This nearly always improves my mood and if it doesn’t this is a great time for acceptance.

Acceptance

It’s good to accept the feelings without judging them or analysing them. I often find my thoughts running away with me at times like this and I experience what is known as ‘analysis paralysis’. When I find my thoughts running away with me, I pray for help to release the obsession and hand over my problems to my higher power. I acknowledge the feelings and release the need to interact with them. If I am feeling low and all I want to do is sit on the sofa and eat chocolate, I know that doing one small thing will help. Sometimes however, even that is too much. In which case I accept that in this moment I can choose to sit on the sofa, watch crap TV and eat chocolate. The secret is to do it without guilt and without beating myself up for it.

Breathe

A good way to stop the ‘analysis paralysis’ is simply to breathe. Just stop for a few moments and observe your breath going in and out. This will help you to feel more serene and grounded.

Music

I find that playing lively, upbeat music is a great way to change state. If I can gather the enthusiasm to dance and sing or along, then that’s even better.

If you would like to share your own experience of dealing with depression or have any questions, please feel free to comment below.

How to Get What You Want – Detachment, Surrender and Relationships

Deepak Chopra’s sixth spiritual law of success is the law of detachment. I think detachment  is the biggest key to manifesting and it’s the hardest technique to master. Paradoxically, the more attached we are to the outcome of our intention, the harder is to manifest.

We don’t need to know how we will achieve our intentions and focusing on the “cursed hows” as Mike Dooley calls them, delays the outcome. When we start thinking about how we will manifest our desires we get in the way and limit the universe. The universe is much cleverer than us and much cleverer than we often give it credit for. It has often been said that “The Lord works in mysterious ways.” We don’t know exactly how our intention will manifest and we don’t need to know. I once asked the universe for a silver Audi TT using visualistion and I got a silver StreetKa, which could be considered a poor man’s Audi TT. Nevertheless I was extremely pleased with the outcome.

The thing that I wanted the most was a relationship and because I wanted it so badly, it took me a long time to manifest. I kept asking my angel cards for guidance and I kept getting the same card. “Accept Heaven’s Help. You’ve asked for heaven’s help. Now get out of the way and let us help you.” I realised that I was trying too hard and that I kept trying to control and manipulate the situation. I was always thinking about things I could do to attract a guy’s attention. It was a hard habit to break. In the end I got sick and I didn’t have the energy to flirt, let alone manipulate.

I surrendered to God or the universe, or whatever you want to call a higher power. If things didn’t work out with a guy, I shrugged it off and I trusted that the universe had someone or something better in store for me. This wasn’t easy and I still took it hard when things didn’t work out but I kept praying, kept surrendering and kept trusting.

As I started to get better physically and emotionally, I started taking better care of myself. Everyone always says that you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you. This always drove me crazy and I always wanted to knock them out. The thing is that we all know that we have to love ourselves but we don’t know how. I was doing a lot of work on myself spiritually and I joined some support groups. I started treating myself how I hoped a lover would treat me. I bought myself some sexy bras and panties. I treated myself to massages and other beauty treatments. I lit candles in the evening. I took sea salt baths with essential oils. I got to the point where I felt really happy and suddenly I realised that it was OK and although I wanted to be in a relationship, I didn’t need one to be happy. Shortly after voicing that thought at one of my support groups I started a relationship. That was in October and I began  a happy relationship with someone that I consider to be one of my soulmates. It is potentially the first healthy relationship I’ve had in my 37 years of life. Unfortunately we split up in March, due to it being a long distance relationship.  I hope that we can find a way to live in the same country and get back together. When things get tough or I miss him, I have to keep remembering to surrender and trust that if it’s meant to be the universe will conspire to make it happen. I don’t need to know how. I just need to trust and if for any reason it doesn’t work out I know that the universe has an even better soulmate relationship lined up for me.

Exercise: Think of a situation in your life right now that is not going according to plan. Take some deep breaths, hand it over to the universe and trust. Repeat this exercise every time you start to obsess or worry.

How to Get What You Want – Setting Intentions

How to Get What You Want – Setting Intentions

Ancient wisdom talks about the law of attraction and it is mentioned in holy writings, including the bible and the Qur’an. Jesus said “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” – Matthew 7:7 and the Qu’ran says, “God promises you … abundance” Quran 2:268 Surat Al-Baqara

In his book The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, Deepak Chopra suggests writing a list of intentions and reading that list first thing in the morning, before bed and before meditating. He also recommends carrying that list around with you. I started doing this in November 2011 and within a few months I had manifest a flat, a car, a great job with a high salary, a relationship with someone that I believe to be my soulmate and an abundance of other things.

Once you have set the intentions, release them into the universe and trust. You don’t need to know how your intentions will manifest and the more detached you are from the outcome, the quicker it will come. I will cover detachment in my next blog post.

Exercise: write your own personal list of intentions. Read it first thing in the morning, before bed and before meditating. Carry a copy around with you.